Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Mommy, I want a little brother..

This is what Ralphy said to me a couple days ago. It actually caught me by surprise, I didn't even know what to say and then he added " not a sister mommy a brother, I already have a sister." My son, has an older sister that he loves. He loves to bother her and play with her, he loves to get her attention.

She is  10 years older than him and she doesn't live with us, but she stays with us during the Summer and now that Ralphy is getting a little older, he's really enjoying  the time with her even more and I love it. They are cute together in a loud and crazy kind of way. Just like a brother and sister should  be.

You may be asking yourself " what's the big deal about Ralphy wanting a little brother?" The problem is that my husband doesn't  want anymore kids.  The way things are with the economy and everything else in the world, he  thinks it would be hard for us  in the financial  department and I get that and I know his right. He wants to be able to provide for both of his kids and I guess he feels that 3 (for him)  is too big of a number and I understand, I really do, but  I want another baby. There I said it.

I have friends that were  the only  child growing up and they all  say the same thing " I wished  I had a brother or sister."  I sometimes think about that and it breaks my heart to think that Ralphy is going  to be lonely. I can't imagine how my life would have been like without my brother. We have a special bond and I would love for Ralphy to have that as well.

Ralphy is blessed, he has his sister and he has his cousins that he loves and I know he will have a great relationship with them. I don't want to sound ungrateful, but I remain hopeful that one day my husband will change his mind and if it doesn't happen, then it was just not meant to be and I will forever be thankful for the son I do have, but I'm not going to lie, it sure would be nice.

6 comments:

Tractor Mom said...

As an only child, I know that he will be fine without a brother or sister. Just give him all those relationships you talked about and as long as he knows he's loved, he will have a full and rich life!! But it would be fun for a while to have a sibling until that get big enough to get into your stuff...

Alex said...

Yes, you are right about that... Thank you for commenting.

Jessica said...

This is very tough. It's sad that the economy and money is a determining factor in the decision to have another child but sadly that is the reality of our world. It's one of the reasons I don't want any more children. I hope your son gets to spend more time with his sister and enjoy her.

Alex said...

Thanks jessica.. I hope so too :)

A Mommy in the City said...

This is hard. I think it's good that you and your hubby are being practical with the way the economy is and everything, but I know the feeling of wanting another little one around!

Alex said...

Its hard to be practical.. because I would love to have another one.. but they way I see it.. if its meant to be.. it will be