I get this question all the time." Why did you wait so long to have a baby?" " Do you regret it?". I guess, one of the main reasons I waited, was because I wanted to get "everything out of my system" and by that I mean, the clubbing, the going out with friends on weeknights, I wanted to enjoy my freedom and I also wanted to make sure I was mentally prepared. I don't think you can ever be one hundred percent prepared, a lot of the learning is hands on, but I wanted to be as mentally prepared as I could possibly be. Being a parent is the biggest and most important job anyone could ever have. Not only are you financially responsible for this little person ( and its EXPENSIVE) believe me, but you are also responsible for this child's mental heath and happiness.After seeing what my own mother went through, alone,with two kids non the less, I knew that being a mom was no easy task. My friends that were having kids, were mostly in their early to mid 20's and they would all talk about how wonderful and fulfilling it was to be a mother, they would speak of that love that you feel when you see your child for the first time and they would all tell me the same thing" you will only know when you have your own baby". But then there was the complaining of how tired they always were or how they never got to go anywhere anymore. So, at that time, I decided I will wait until I was closer to my 30th birthday to have a baby. I was not ready to give up my freedom and all the fun I was having. I was selfish. I'm 33 years old now and my son is almost 3 and I don't regret waiting. At the time I got pregnant I was one hundred percent sure I wanted to have a baby and not only that, I knew it would only happen when the time was right. Now that I am a mother and I see all of the struggles, the constant worrying, the taking care of them when they are sick, the having to make sure they are taking care of in every way that a person needs to be taken care of, I've realized damn, this is hard and then I ask myself, " how do younger moms do it?". When I think back to the person that I was at that age, I don't think I could have done it . I applaud all of the young moms that are working hard every day to provide for their kids, whether they are with their husbands/baby's father. I applaud you for taking care of business. If I had the chance to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing.
I would love to hear your thoughts . What age do you consider to be "too old" to have a baby?. At what age did you have your baby?. If you had a chance to do it all over again, would you wait?